“Does a spring pour forth from the same opening both fresh and salt water? Can a fig tree, my brothers, bear olives, or a grapevine produce figs? Neither can a salt pond produce fresh water.” -James 3:11-12
What you say reflects the inner character of your heart. We like to separate our words and our thoughts from ourselves. We prefer to locate the blame for the ugliness in us on other people.
Did you say something in anger? It’s not that you have unresolved anger in your heart; they shouldn’t have provoked you.
Did you criticize someone else’s appearance? It’s not that you have personal insecurities or a need to put others down to elevate yourself; they should know that whatever they’re doing isn’t working.
The fact of the matter is that what we say betrays what’s in our hearts. Fig trees don’t produce grapes and a heart at fellowship with God does not produce angry, critical, or resentful comments.
If it looks like a duck, walks like a duck, and quacks like a duck, it’s got to be a duck.